You belong into a group by not questioning its unspoken assumptions. This is not something you do consciously or deliberately. The unspoken assumptions, the things that go without saying, are just the background that people often do not even perceive consciously. Philosophy could be defined as seeing, analyzing, and questioning that background, be it in science, in society or politics, in culture or in simple everyday life.
It seems like I have a tendency to such a way of thinking, to look at the implicit background and reflect about things that other people take for granted or don’t even think about. I often find myself not being part of the conversational worlds in which many other people live because I am stepping out of those worlds of things that go without saying for many others. As a result, I often don’t belong. I tend to be kind of an outsider.
It looks like I have always been like this. My aunt just told me the following story: When I was about four years old, at one time my mother complained about the flowers in the garden. Referring to the larkspur and some other flowers, she stated that there was too much blue in the garden at the time.
About two days later, according to my aunt, I suddenly said: “Well, I think there is way too much green in the garden.”
(The picture is from https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Hoher_Rittersporn.jpg.)